The Death of José Aponte Sheds Light on Domestic Violence in the LGBTQ+ Community
Read the press release from Casa Myrna, The Network/La Red, and Jane Doe, Inc.
Domestic violence programs respond to the death of José Aponte
The alleged domestic violence homicide of José Aponte, 43, in his Roxbury home on December 11, 2022, underscores the need for broader education and awareness about intimate partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) communities. Aponte, who was found dead during a wellness check that day, was dating Michael Perry, 37, who has been arraigned in Boston Municipal Court on a charge of first-degree murder. Perry was previously arraigned on a charge of assault with a dangerous weapon. Early news reports focused on the sensational escape attempt by Perry and omitted that the men were in a relationship, thus obscuring that this was domestic violence-related.
“We are deeply saddened by the news of Jose Aponte’s murder and send our condolences to his loved ones,” said Casa Myrna CEO Stephanie Brown. “This preventable tragedy highlights the prevalence of domestic violence in all communities and demonstrates the importance of education and awareness. Partnering with The Network/La Red and Jane Doe Inc., we strive to break the stigma around domestic violence and help survivors feel more empowered to ask for support.”
This is the second suspected LGBTQ+ partner abuse-related homicide in Massachusetts in the past three months. Generally, 25-33% of LGBTQ+ people experience abuse by a partner, much the same rates as in cisgender heterosexual relationships. However, the Massachusetts Department of Public Health’s 2022 “COVID-19 Community Impact Study” noted that experiences of intimate partner violence were reported two to four times more frequently since the start of the pandemic by LGBTQ+ respondents. This is similar to the Human Rights Campaign 2020 report, “LGBTQ Intimate Partner Violence and COVID-19,” that indicated “LGBTQ people have been twice as likely to have experienced an incident of intimate partner violence since the onset of COVID-19. While 68% of the general population sample who have experienced intimate partner violence since the onset of COVID-19 said the pandemic has increased the duration and frequency of such violence, this was greater (77%) among LGBTQ respondents.”
While these reports may focus on physical violence, in reality, what many call “domestic violence” is a much broader constellation of behaviors. “It’s about one person using a pattern of behaviors to maintain power and control over a partner’s thoughts, beliefs, actions, and/or spirit,” said Beth Leventhal, Executive Director of The Network/La Red. “The tactics used to control include emotional and psychological abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, and/or cultural/identity abuse.” Abuse can occur in intimate relationships between people of any age, ethnic group, profession, religious affiliation, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation or gender identity/expression, regardless of whether they are married or living together.
Individuals experiencing abuse are not alone, and there are resources across Massachusetts available to help. Two organizations specialize in working with LGBTQ+ individuals. The Network/La Red works statewide with LGBTQ+ survivors of partner abuse, offering free services including a 24-hour hotline, safety planning, support groups, safe home, transitional housing, and individual advocacy and support for LGBTQ+ survivors of partner abuse. Fenway Health’s Violence Recovery Program (VRP) provides free counseling, support groups, advocacy, and referrals to survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, hate violence, and police misconduct.
“Domestic and sexual violence thrive in silence and often result in isolation and increased vulnerability,” said Toni K. Troop, Director of Communications and Development at Jane Doe Inc. “We urge anyone who is concerned for themselves or someone they know to turn to a trusted advocate at a rape crisis center or domestic violence program to talk about what you need, available resources, and options.”
Casa Myrna, The Network/La Red, and Jane Doe Inc. remain committed to supporting survivors of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
If you are concerned about your relationship or the relationship of a friend or family member, call:
· The Network/La Red’s statewide hotline at 1-800-832-1901 or visit www.tnlr.org.
· SafeLink, Casa Myrna’s statewide domestic violence hotline, at 1-877-785-2020 or visit www.casamyrna.org.
· You can learn more and find help in a community near you at www.janedoe.org/findhelp.
All calls are free, anonymous, and confidential. You don’t have to leave or even want to leave your partner to get support.
About Casa Myrna
Casa Myrna is Boston’s largest provider of domestic violence awareness efforts and of shelter and supportive services to survivors. Our comprehensive range of services, available in both Spanish and English, provide survivors with tools to recover from the trauma of abuse and begin to build sustainable self-sufficiency. We operate SafeLink, the statewide domestic violence hotline, and promote domestic and dating violence prevention through awareness and education. All of our supports are provided to survivors free of charge. To learn more, visit www.casamryra.org.
About The Network/La Red
The Network/La Red is a survivor-led organization working statewide to end partner abuse in LGBTQ+, poly, and kink communities. We offer comprehensive direct services for survivors while also providing community education, survivor leadership development, and technical assistance to improve community and institutional response to partner abuse. To learn more, visit www.tnlr.org.
About JDI
JDI (also known as Jane Doe Inc., The Massachusetts Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence) is the only statewide membership and advocacy coalition in Massachusetts dedicated to addressing sexual and domestic violence. We aim to support survivors and end violence by promoting gender equity, racial justice, and safety for everyone. JDI’s mission is to complement and support the expertise and leadership of its 62 community-based member organizations with a statewide strategy involving public and private partners to tackle systemic issues that foster and perpetuate violence, to create policies and explore innovative solutions that improve the lives of survivors, and to prevent gender-based violence. To learn more, visit www.janedoe.org.